Men? Go, figure them out! They are as complicated as the stock markets or the trigonometry tests you used to take way back in high school. They have always been known to send out mixed signals in the dating realm, and have seemingly mastered the art of deception and make-believe. That being said, finding out whether a man likes you or not without asking directly, may seem a rather impossible feat. But fret no more, as these basic, surefire signs that he’s not into you might just help you play your cards right!
His Body Says It All
Decode your man’s body language, especially on your first date. This will clue you in if he’s going to be worth the night. If your date is leaning too far away from you, backs away when you attempt to get closer, crosses his arms, does not look at you straight in the eye or gives you a tight-lipped smile, better hit the road, girl, because he doesn’t like you and you might just be in for a dull night.
He is Not Making an Effort to Spend Time with You
“So trust me when I say if a guy is treating you like he doesn’t care, he genuinely doesn’t care. No exceptions.” said Alex from the movie He is Just Not That into You. If there is one certain thing with the way men think, it would be that if he wants to see you and spend time with you, he will definitely make it happen. But if he acts like he doesn’t care at all, like, if you find yourself perpetually waiting for the phone to ring in the hope that he’d call you and invite you to see a movie, or it’s always you who’s doing all the calling and inviting, give yourself a pinch and wake up from dream world — he is not interested.
He Does not Remember Important Details about You
According to social philosopher, Michael Gurian, a man takes in less sensory detail than a woman. So if a man is summoning every neuron in his body just so he could process and remember all the auditory inputs pertinent to your lovely existence, then you are in luck! He is into you. But if he forgets about your work, the name of your dog, or even worse, YOUR name, this just goes to show that he does not value you at all. Perhaps, it is time to move on.
He Does Not Spend Money for You
Do your dates always include a hotdog and a soda? Or canned goods and instant noodles for dinner at his home? Haven’t you ever gone to a fancy restaurant ever since you’ve been going out? If the answers to all these questions are yes, without a doubt, he’s not into you. Most of the time, if a man likes a woman he would spend much effort – and much of his weekly savings too – just to impress her and make her feel special. But if he doesn’t like you that much, he’d go all out with this frugality. However, if your man is simply socioeconomically-deprived as of the moment, cut him some slack because that would be an entirely different issue.
He Does Not Return the Favor
If you find yourself constantly delivering him meals to his work, laundering and ironing his clothes, baking him treats, showering him with much love and affection — but do not get anything in return, better give yourself a reality check. Maybe he doesn’t like you as his girl friend, but as his loyal and trusty nanny instead! You may rationalize that this is just another form of unconditional love and that you are absolutely doing a fantastic job with it, but the truth is, love does not have to be one-sided. If he’s not into you, don’t waste your time and effort. Just pack your bags and leave. Don’t put yourself in a win-lose situation because no one in this world deserves more love and pampering than you do.
