They lend you a very good pair of ears even when you’re repetitive as a scratched Spice Girls CD, cheer you up like a bucket of ice cream, support you like your very own set of groupies, and go with you wherever you want even when their feet are already well-inflamed. These are your true girl friends. Here’s how you can stay best friends forever even with all the hustle and bustle of romance and daily life.
Make time for Girls’ Night Out.
A boyfriend always has the power to turn that you-go-girl-I’m-always-at-your-back-type-of-friend into an absentee pal who only shows up when her boyfriend is out of town, out with the guys or the jerk broke her heart just recently. Although according to relationship experts, it is normal to be totally smitten with your boyfriend and ignore your best friends while in it, nobody wants to be considered as a default choice or merely a time-filler for your cancelled dates and appointments. Your best friends understand that a relationship has overwhelming demands and you need to take time for it. But don’t forget that before you got into that relationship, your friends made you absolutely happy countless times. So, don’t make them your last resort. They deserve some respect. Plan an outing or activity you and your girls can enjoy sans the boyfriends. Spend quality bonding time at the beach, spa or over dinner just so you could catch up with your daily lives. Get rid of the nasty habit of mentioning your hubby every now and then though, unless you want to bore your friends to death!
Ask how they’re doing.
It’s easy to get self-absorbed especially when you feel like all aspects of your life are finally on the move. And though your best friends would always be very eager to listen, hold off discussions about yourself and start tuning in with their lives. Be considerate enough to ask how they are doing, if they’re happy with their jobs, how their families are or who they’re dating as of the moment. You’d be surprised to find out that there is so much going on with your friends’ lives — maybe even much more riveting than the ones you have for yourself. So stay best friends forever by suppressing the urge to be the guest of your own talk show because your friends deserve as much as attention as you do.
Accept them as they are.
Being yourself and letting others be themselves lead to long lasting friendships.
An acid test of true friendship requires acceptance of who they are and what they bring into the relationship. Your friends may have downright-gorgeous attributes but alongside these are less-than-striking qualities and quirks. But don’t forget that it’s a part of the whole, beautiful package! Stay best friends forever by learning to accept them totally without having to pass judgment.
Be honest and be their cheerleader.
There’s always comfort in knowing you can honestly tell your friends just about anything — whether it’s about her pair of overgrown brows or your occasional bad breath. Being their number one fan helps a lot too. Be sensitive whenever your friends need a morale boost. Always having someone to support them and cheer them all the way will comfort them and make them feel reassured that everything will be okay.
