You just got off from a fancy first date. It was almost ideal — your conversations were riveting, no turn offs of whatever sort surfaced, and he was such a perfect gentleman, and a good looking one at that! But then he suddenly utters that casual “see you around” phrase and you are left with that grueling and mind-boggling task of deciphering what he really meant. Should you dismiss this date as a one-night rendezvous? Or should your start choosing your gorgeous outfit for the next gig?
The “I’ll Call You” Line
It is almost mandatory to verbalize this line right after a first date. He will call you. But don’t set up a camp right beside your telephone or blinklessly stare at your Blackberry just yet! The time frame may quite be vague — he will call you, but maybe sometime within the year but not so sure if within the week. However, when he says or texts you with “Thanks for the great time, see you around”. What he really means is you most likely didn’t hit it off really well. Probably it is because of those little things you didn’t notice like dirt on your nails, the piece of meat that got stuck in between your incisors, or the endless ranting of why Lady Gaga should get rid of those machine gun brassieres. Yes, just like women, men are very quick to judge too. But you can’t blame them! They will pay for the bills in the next few dates, so they have to make a decision whether you are worth it or not on the basis of your first date and impression.
The “We Should Do This Again Some Time” Line
Ah, the most used up line in men’s dating vocabulary. What he really means by this can conjure up incongruous statements. It could be a sugarcoated way of saying “I don’t want to see you ever again” or the shy, ego-preserving way of telling you that he had a really good time and would want to ask for your hand in marriage soon. It’s complicated. What it guarantees however, is that it is a positive start but does not really put a rock-solid foundation to a committed relationship. Maybe he is in the middle of making a judgment on whether or not he had a great night, weighing his pro’s and con’s, but he is interested enough to contemplate on going for another date.
The “Sooooo, Are You Doing Anything Next Week?” Line
What he really means by this is that you got him on hook, line and sinker, girl! He had fun, he is interested and he wants to know if you feel the same way without sounding too eager. If he tells you this, respond with a casual “Uhm… Nothing much, really.” And that would be the clearest go signal that you are open for suggestions on what you can do for fun — together.
The “I Would Really Like to See You Soon” Line
These words are said for a direct purpose – he is interested.. Scratch that. He is charmed by you and wants to be with you for the rest of his life! He will go home, go into his bed, and try to fall asleep. But instead of counting sheep, his mind is busy dreaming about the next moment he can be with you, planning his marriage proposal, wondering when you would like to meet his family or what your kids would look like. When men have reached to this point, there really is no turning back because more often than not, they always know what they want, and are always out to get it.
