Have you seen the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You”? If you haven’t, this movie is a vivid portrayal of a woman’s disillusioned perception on dating and relationships. The phrase “you’re not the exception you’re the rule” is imprinted on the minds of women who have seen this movie and found every bit of it true. There is no fairy tale ending if you’re the rule, and exceptions only happen to a very lucky few.
The ugly truth is that most guys dating girls are not trying to pursue a relationship. Most of these men are just trying to have a good time or start a fling if they’re afraid of commitment. So, how can you spot those who are just playing the field? Here is a list of signs that a guy isn’t into you.
He never replies
The usual excuses are usually untrue. If a guy doesn’t text you back, it’s not because his cell phone lost signal. If he’s not picking up, his phone is not in silent mode. If he’s not replying to your E-mail, his spam folder is not the one to blame. Guys dating girls who they find uninteresting will come up with the most prosaic excuses just to get off the hook. If he’s not initiating contact or won’t reply to yours, drop him like a hot brick and move on.
He’s always busy
Remember that one guy from a distant past who literally moved mountains just to be with you? If the one in your life right now isn’t doing that, it’s a sure sign that he’s not looking to have a relationship with you. Men are never too busy for the women they really like. If he’s too busy for you but free to play basketball with the boys, take a hint. Most guys admit to doing this when they’re fed up with a clingy girl. Admit it, you’re probably doing it to guys you don’t like as well.
He’s not introducing you to his friends
If you’re not going to be a part of his future, he won’t bother introducing you to his friends. When you’re dating a guy for over several months but you’re still in the dark, it’s a sure sign that he doesn’t want you connected with his life. A guy who really likes you should be proud of you, and he will show you off to his friends.
“We” is not in his vocabulary
Guys dating girls, who they don’t see as part of their future won’t use the future tense. He won’t set dates for the coming weeks or invite you to a local concert to be held next month. The invite “we should check it out sometime” won’t come of his mouth no matter how many hints you drop. Guys who are into girls want to share more time with them, especially if they’re looking for a relationship.
He’s not sweet
During the dating stage, guys always put their best foot forward if they want to impress a girl. They know that roses, chocolates and other sweet gestures is the way to a girl’s heart. Naturally, a guy won’t do these acts if they’re not into a girl.
Don’t force yourself to a guy who’s obviously not interested. There’s a lot of fish in the sea. Who knows, you just might find the one that will hold on to your bait.
