We are all used to the medieval idea of women being constantly pursued by men, and the former remaining as bashful and secretive as ever — even when she knows deep inside that she has fallen head over heels already. But now, in our world of liberation, these conventional notions have long taken a hike. Yet it can’t still be denied that women who have been aggressive have sent a lot of good men turned off. So be careful with this newfound freedom of expression, subtlety may still well be the best policy — frustrating as it may seem.
Here are some little hints and moves on how to get a guy like you and to let him know you’re interested, without sending him running towards the opposite direction.
Dig His Stuff
Whether it’s the music his band plays, his abstract paintings or his snow globe collection, complimenting his stuff is always a major bonus. Even if it really isn’t your thing, letting him know that you are interested by respecting his choice of hobbies, interests and fascinations translates into respecting his individuality.
Compliment Him On His Scent
According to John Gray, author of the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, men are always in constant search for approval. They do a lot of things to prove themselves. When it comes to grooming, however, guys cannot do so much as to spray on their favorite brands of cologne. Make his day by telling him that he smells good. This will show that you acknowledge and approve of all his grooming efforts.
Touch Him If You Can
According to J. Lionel Tyler, author of The Stages of Human Life, “The sense of touch is the greatest among all the sense. It gives us knowledge of depth, form and thickness; we feel, we hate and love, are touched or touchy, through our skin” New born babies need touch in order to thrive. Depressed patients need touch In order to feel cared for again. This just goes to show that touch is an essential part in the lives of human beings — and gives you all the more reason to touch your guy, just to let him know you’re into him. But don’t pounce into him and immediately give him a full body massage just yet! Be subtle, dear. If you get the chance, just a simple tap or brushing of his forearm while in conversation will let him know you are paying attention.
Establish Eye Contact
Let him know you’re into him by establishing eye contact. A guy can tell if you are not listening, so make sure your eyes are set on his. But please, no staring! That will definitely scare him off.
Pat Attention to Details
Let him know you’re interested by remembering what he tells you in your casual talk or chitchats, so that the next time you bump into him, you have something to keep the conversation going. Like, how did his basketball game go or if he already bought that iPad he was saving for. This will tell him you are interested in his life.
Research Always Helps
Thank your lucky stars that you were born in the age of technology — Google, Facebook, his blog — there are countless ways for you to dig up the good stuff on the object of your affection. Look out for likes, dislikes, hobbies and pastimes. Then casually surprise him with your newfound knowledge at your next encounter. Just remember not to sound like a total stalker or you’ll scare him off!
Accept Invites Pronto
Sure, it’s fine to play coy and hard-to-get. But when a guy you like invites you to something, let him know you’re into him with a prompt and decisive “sounds great” or “count me in” answer . This will do a world of good and shows him you are the type of girl who is always on the go and game for anything!
